[QUOTE=golden_eve;6523903]Oh. I only mentioned it because some people are not comfortable with the instant block and cease and desist all contact. I also mentioned it in case she felt like she was being cruel, which many ppl do. It’s up to the OP to determine what she’s comfortable with. As Sarah points out, my first recommendation is going no contact.[/QUOTE



Thank you. I understand. I am going back to my home of origin and was going to meet up with this person and her husband. I then emailed her that I thought not meeting would best for now. It wasn't an out-and-out No Contact...but it was pretty extreme. We always meet up when in the same geographic area.

This was a big step for me. This is a very old relationship.

I am absolutely certain she will "loop back" in the future...sending me expensive cards and gifts. This is always, always, always what she does.

It will be very weird to maintain No Contact but frankly my life is way to stressful for this. It seems unhealthy to continue on with this so-called friendship. As well, I think she has some substance abuse problems at this time (drinking on top of anti-depressants) and as I don't engage with substance abuse I don't want to be around it. I told her that in an email and it probably made her angry.