No contact. No contact. No contact.

I wrote on another thread about trying to break free of a narcissistic friend.

The most important comment from a member on that thread was that narcissists never change.

I know this is true.

But it is kind of hard to wrap my head around the concept.

Here on Psych Central the healing journey is a lot about changing, isn't it? We have to trade our maladaptive coping for healthy coping. We have to learn new skills. We have to grow into new responsibilities.

With this friend...it is true...she never changes. She doesn't see the need to change. I have read that is the mark of a narcissist. They never feel they are at fault.

I can see where maintaining contact with this friend hurts my recovery. I have worked so hard...so very hard...to recover and progress along the path...I can't let a narcissist keep making me a victim.

No contact is the way. It is hard. You don't have to tell the person...delete them from social media etc. Just fade them and eventually they will just go somewhere else looking for narcissistic food.