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Old May 06, 2019, 01:43 PM
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I agree with the others that say neither.

I have an acquaintance that went through something similar. She found out her husband was cheating on her and had in the past as well. He left her for the new woman and they divorced. Her ex married his affair partner.

She quickly married a guy she met when on the rebound who had 3 kids and another on the way. He also spent a lot on child support and had debts, so she had to pay most of the bills. Fast forward 3 years later and she just had divorce #2 granted.

I am not sure if husband #2 was abusive, but my husband represented her in court at the divorce hearing. He said the way she reacted when it was finalized made him felt like there were some bad things going on in that marriage that she was not telling him. She was so happy to be free.

Jumping into a new relationship so quickly, especially with someone who is abusive and expects you to maintain him, is a recipe for disaster. It seems to me that people often do that, maybe because they don’t want to be alone, or they want to demonstrate to their ex that they are over them. There can be exceptions, but I think it’s often not a wise idea.

My 2 cents, take some time to focus on yourself and your son; get some therapy if that is an option. Once you are in a better space mentally, then you can start thinking about dating again.
Thanks for this!
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