My narcissist was my husband. I actually had to run away and even then - nine years later - I am not entirely free.

He keeps resurfacing in my life. Many of my friends, and family (including my children) are still wrapped up and absorbed by his charismatic game. It hurts that these people think so highly of him. The truth of the matter is everyone he has manipulated and groomed into his cult of personality are simply eager to be riding the wave on his coat-tails. It is infuriating to hear everyone speak so highly of him - even when he is doing truly awful things. I don't get it. But I remind myself he is not my problem anymore and as long as I let it get to me, he is winning. So I do my best to shut my ears to the raving about how perfect he is and ignore the circle of people he has surrounded himself with. My life is the better for it.