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Alex said:
maybe... it isn't t's (or parents) place to decide on the level of dependence / independence that is or is not appropriate for their child.

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I liked Alex's statement. I think this is what my T is doing with me. She probably has some clear cut boundary but I haven't directly challenged any yet. I am also overly self-reliant and sometime event think that I am imposing on her just by scheduling a session. We have only had short discussions about boundaries when I have had the guts to ask what the rules are. She is basically letting me set the rules for our interaction and I guess she has been comfortable accommodating me. I have alway struggled with contacting her outside of sessions. The phone is not an option for me. This week although me head is spinning out of control a bit, I am determined not to write her. I am uncomfortable with wanting to write stuff all the time and do not like feeling needy or dependent on others. These feeling are MINE not hers so I've got to deal with them. The "no writing" rule change was imposed by me not her.

I think in my particular case, part of my T is learning how to deal with the vague and complex rules that governing relationships. I think I need to ask for things and initiate dialogs. Unfortunately, this makes therapy very uncomfortable for me, but hopefully therapeutic in the end.