I have been through a ton of abuse in my lifetime - forgive me for not listing it out, but suffice it to say I can relate to most anyone in this forum in some way.

My most recent abuse ended 3yrs ago .. by my husband. I got away from him and divorced. The weird way things worked out (I say weird bc we were both heading in separate directions n had no intentions of ever meeting again) - we ended up living together n eventually remarrying again. Things have been good. We are going thru stress n he is starting to go back to unnatural marijuana. It makes him angrier - which makes it harder for him to "hear" when I say "you are starting to become controlling/abusive" or "you are getting too worked up - you need to take some time to yourself for a bit" (these are things we agreed upon to help diffuse a situation before it BECAME a situation) .. so I am getting worried again.

Now - I found out a friend is also going through abuse (she describes all the signs to me) but she is not yet ready to call it abuse.

I am frustrated n concerned and well .. just really needed to vent I guess.

Thanks.