I wonder if, since you are verbalizing it pretty well here, is this something that you can verbalize with your T? AND can the T respond to the discussion in some mode other than that of a "helper" or rescuer, with reference to your post on another thread?

My last T DID terminate me after 6 years because she didn't "have the emotional resources" to continue with me. It was probably a reenactment, in some way, on my part -- but I was the client, doing the best I could -- and she probably had her own issues, that I hadn't recognized well, that played into it. So, it can happen -- doesn't mean that it will happen with you.

The dynamic that someone is too messed up for treatment -- in my case I have come to believe, extremely sadly, that I was too much, or -- some other complicated things -- for my mother to love me. AND, I recently came across a letter (not sure I ever sent it) to a T more than 30 years ago, where she had apparently suggested that I had the clinical symptoms I did because my mother hadn't loved me -- and my letter disputed that.

To acknowledge that would have meant to to lose my family and extended family, to dispute/reject the family fairy tale -- and a sense of belongingness that would have been horrible. I eventually did leave, several years ago, as and after my mother died -- with enormous anguish. A swamp, but it was my home. I knew no other, didn't know how to make another. Still don't.