Let's say you are "too much" for your therapist. What meaning and emotions are you attaching to that idea? That you are a bad person? That if you are too much for him, you must be too much for anyone? Is there shame? Self hatred? Hopelessness?

Even if you are "too much" for him, that doesn't actually say anything negative about you, or mean you are unworthy of help. It would just mean he is missing something that is needed to be able to help you.

I dog sit. Occasionally, I will decline a booking because the dog is "too much." For example, I've declined several bookings recently for large dogs who are less than two years old. This is finals week for me, and last week was the last week of classes with several large assignments and a test that were due. I knew I wouldn't have the energy or time to give dogs who are essentially still puppies all of the attention and exercise they need. That doesn't make them bad dogs, or mean that they are intrinsically "too much," and no sitter would be able to deal with them. I just knew I wasn't going to be the best sitter for them at this time due to what I am able to offer.

I see a PA at my student health center on campus. When my thyroid hormone levels were dangerously low, she insisted on referring me to an endocrinologist due to the severity of my condition. I was essentially "too much" for her to be able to competently treat me. That just meant I needed to see someone who had a more specialized level of knowledge. It didn't say anything bad about me that I needed someone else in order to take care of my health.

I know it would probably feel very personal and perhaps even devastating if your therapist were to decide you are "too much" for him. I hope you can try reframing what that would actually mean in a way that is not a condemnation of yourself.

This blog post might be a good read for you.