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Originally Posted by JadedEmpath
Truth. Mine stole over £500 of weed I'd put aside, while I was giving her free access to smoke whatever she wanted from the cheap stuff (she smoked at least 1K of that). When I was completely out of smoke and I went to fetch the reserve jar and found it empty,
I had to make a choice: confront her about the theft and get met with denial and anger and fight for the next couple of weeks about it, or accept that it was gone and forget about it. I chose the latter because I figured that my relationship was more valuable than weed (the opposite was true in her mind apparently). She asked to roll a joint from the dust left in the jar and I said that I was going to save it for myself. Of course, she kicked off about that and we had a fight for a few weeks because of how "selfish" I am and what a "bad partner" I was.
The mind of these people is bonkers. Who robs you blind, then gets angry because you don't give them the change in your pocket too. And what sort of love blind idiot was I to overlook and rationalise away such obvious contempt?
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Live and learn. Toxic narcissists (especially in a romantic relationship) will rob us blind, damage our property in their rages, and worse. Consider that you were lucky it ended before anything really bad happened. But it shatters our self-esteem. We have to learn self-protection so as not to let it ever happen again. I had someone kick in the side of my vehicle in a rage. I had to have thousands of dollars worth of body work done. For a year I looked at that big dent in my truck and finally I couldn't stand it anymore and had it fixed. Luckily insurance paid for most of it. I also filed a police report. But by then the toxic narcissist was long gone....wrecking havoc in someone else's life. Consider yourself lucky if they left without doing more damage.