My T will comment on what I'm wearing sometimes, especially if it's something new. Generally something like, "I don't think I've seen that shirt before" or "Look at those shoes!" (polka dot tennis shoes, not something sexy). Once he said he liked my sweater. Or last summer, I mostly wore sleeveless things, so if I was wearing something with (short) sleeves, he'd sometimes say, "I almost didn't recognize you, you're wearing sleeves today!" It makes me feel like he's paying attention. (And he's quite fashionable, so I consider it a compliment if he likes/notices something I'm wearing.) Honestly, he seems more likely to notice I'm wearing something new than my husband...(of course, maybe my H doesn't want to encourage my clothes spending...). He's also asked me about the beaded bracelets i often wear, asking if they had significance, and I said I mainly wear them as sort of fidget toys for session.

Though I guess a more sort of negative thing was the first two times I wore distressed jeans (a couple small holes), T was like, "Things so bad you have holes in your jeans?" (joking of course--the one time, though, I said yes, because I was doing pretty poorly). So I often avoided any distressed jeans because I didn't feel like hearing that comment. But then I've worn some again recently, and he hasn't said anything, so maybe he's over it. I also make sure not to wear anything that shows too much cleavage, as I've mentioned ET to him on occasion and don't want to seem like I'm trying to look seductive. (Though of course there have been times I've worn a new top and/or new bra and didn't realize till I was sitting in the car on the way to session that it was more revealing than I'd realized, so then I'd just pay attention to how I sat in session.)