I have been on Psych Central for four years. I went back and was looking at the threads I started...and was shocked to discover that this was the THIRD TIME I have gone on Psych Central to write about this person. And what I wrote almost four years ago is the same thing I wrote this week!

That's shocking!

I was afraid to end the friendship and go No Contact. It was only recently when I started to think about the patterns...that I saw what was happening. Maybe on some level I knew...but I wasn't strong enough to face it.

I think what finally helped was that I have been working very hard to improve my mental health. It always seems I have made little progress...but things like this remind me that...if you keep working the rewards are there.

Covert narcissists are a bit harder to detect because on the surface they seem helpful and supportive. But clues began to surface that I could not ignore. Such as the fact this person never apologized, never thought she was wrong about anything, and can be very cruel. She recently cut off one of her siblings very cruelly. And she talks about others behind their back. Maybe as these people get older the negatives in their personalities get worse, and begin to show. I think that is the case here.