I sort of had the same mindset with my ex. We were ultra-compatible in the sense we enjoyed the same hobbies, activities, etc., but I was not *super* attracted to him. For years I just thought I had a low sex drive, but more and more I realized I just didn't want to have sex because he didn't turn me on.

But I kept suffering through the relationship (it wasn't just the physical part, he was also not treating me super well and was depressed), and I just held onto the fact that we got along.

I've had crushes on other people since the breakup earlier this year, and the difference I can tell is that not only do we get along, but they turn me on. They give me a fluttery feeling in my chest. I almost never felt that way with my ex, not even in the beginning. Because I really was not attracted to his body, at all.

Everyone is different and I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but just telling you my experience. I wish you luck as you try to figure this out!