just a heads-up, when I first joined this website, I think I read somewhere in the rules (maybe sex addict guidelines) that pedophiles are not welcomed or something similar because this community focuses more on supporting victims of pedophiles. I'm not sure if you're a pedophile, but if you are, then feel free to find a community specifically for men like you. from my experience, the internet can be quite . . . strict against pedophilia. my country is very strict about pedophilia: a man can get arrested for child pornography in his private home. I'm a man of romance and don't quite understand the antagonizing of any sexuality, including pedophilia; but rules are rules. I hope you find a safe community where you feel a bit less antagonized, my friend.