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Default May 10, 2019 at 12:22 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Amyjay View Post
Fearless, you truly can fear the process less now because the understanding about healing from trauma has completely changed the focus of trauma therapy nowadays. I too had some bad experience in therapy from years ago where "processing the trauma" looked like becoming completely dissociated and destabilized in pursuit of a healing that never came. Trauma is not healed by re-experiencing it, but by staying within the window of tolerance with one foot firmly anchored in the present at all times. The first aim of trauma therapy is all about grounding, forming an alliance with the therapist, and developing skills for staying within the window of tolerance. It is ONLY when those conditions are met that it is safe to begin to look at the trauma. Transforming trauma can only occur when you can stay in the present.

I have been with my current trauma T for nearly two years... she still says I am not ready for trauma processing. When triggers come up (multiple times per session) we are still all about grounding and containment. A week or so ago we (ourselves) pushed too hard on trying to figure something out and went into complete shut down. This weeks session was all about grounding again.
My T says "if you're getting lost in the trauma then we're doing it wrong." As slow as it is, I do find this is a MUCH better way of doing therapy than my experience of years ago.

Here is a free webinar you can watch. It's aimed at therapists, but I am getting a things out of it. It's just basic strategies for trauma therapists. Unfortunately there is only 1 seminar left, but you might find it useful. I have watched all of them. Treating Trauma Master Series - 5 Part Series on the Treatment of Trauma
Aaaahhh, amyjay. Thank you for this. (And for saying I could Fear Less )Makes sense. At my last session with T I asked her if she wanted a copy of the "list" of trauma I had given to my last trauma T. She said no...not unless I consulted with all of my inner Team and it felt like a good idea for ALL. I didn't get it at first, thinking, well isn't this the crap we'll have to "process" one by one? After a day passed, I started to understand that it is not important at this time...and that parts of me did NOT want to hand over my innards on a platter.

And now you guys have helped solidify for me why...

This is such an important message for anyone who has had a bad experience and who now avoids this kind of therapy work.

Happy Friday, all.

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