I'm so sorry you're going through all of this, lovethesun! Unfortunately sometimes we have to put up with such people! I'm so sorry! I agree with what all the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could! You've been given PLENTY of great, kind, wise and wonderful advice on this thread! I'd suggest to follow it as much as you possibly CAN if you want to! I'd suggest to talk to your husband about ALL OF THIS if you haven't already and seeing how it goes from there! Hopefully he'll listen to what you have to say and understand you and what you mean! I understand your anger and frustration! Just try to avoid him as much as you can although I understand it's not easy AT ALL! Still, just avoid him when you can and take GREAT care of yourself, ok? We'll ALWAYS be here for you if you need to vent! Sending many hugs to you, lovethesun!