So Sorry about your situation Dancer. Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too? How old are you both, if u don't mind.

I hope you can gain some insight through counseling, atleast you
both are agreeing to get help. I'm sorry your hurting so much.

Cutting, not eating, sleeping. Maybe you have to be honest with yourself and say is this really worth it all...?

Hope it works out for you...(((Dancer))) Good luck....!