Wisewoman - The pain can be most severe at times. It can be really really hard. Sometimes I wonder whether things will ever feel any better for me and I wonder whether there really is any hope. gg said something to me once that really helped me with that. She said her therapist told her this but anyway - my understanding of the point was that it isn’t about trying to minimise or avoid the pain or turn away from it. It is about the rest of us getting bigger so that while it will always be a part of us it will be a smaller and more manageable part. That that is what getting better is about. I shall try to remember to be careful with the cyber hugs… I am the opposite, a bit funny about hugs in real life (unless I know someone really well) but happy enough to give cyber hugs to people. Thanks for the gentle hug back.

Cheshire Cat - Hello Mr. I didn’t know about your marriage. I am sorry. Relationships can be hard. But I really don’t believe that we only get one shot at them. I dare say that you will fall in love again. You are just too charming not to.

Sweetcrusader – OMG you are right. I actually did write a poem. Wow. I didn’t think I did that. I guess I do sometimes. More prose in short form, but yeah, poetry. Well I never… Thanks! *Safe hugs* to you too, sweetie. I like hugs.

Place – I am doing ok. Thanks. You take care too. Hugs whenever you want, ok?

Joe – Yeah, sometimes the grief does seem to be never ending… Sometimes one day at a time is the best way. Don’t get too caught up in tomorrows and yesterdays. We are all ok right now in the present moment. The present moment is eternal… it is *always* *now*. I have decided to get back into my meditation stuff. I had become a bit slack with it, but I really find it helps me feel more peaceful and relaxed. It sounds like you are doing great (though I understand it is still really painful). A year is not a long time in the grand scheme of things.

Yeah, things will get better. I have faith and hope that things will get better. The pain will always be there, but the suffering will cease. I shall try to welcome the tears. They can bring a sense of release. Thank you for your response.