Thanks everyone.I actually feel much better today about the whole thing.Writing it out here has helped.I felt so stuck,alone and hopeless before and now I feel a little hopeful.

He still doesn't get why taking all the money out of the bank upset me but I decided to just let it go for now.I know it's not a good idea for him to be going around with that much cash on him but it's not worth arguing over right now.I'm gonna wait a few more days then say something like hey,maybe we should go deposit that money,what if this or that happened,then we would be broke and up a **** creek.Give him time to get over whatever his reasoning is for carrying it with him.

We've had a good day together so far though. I feel compassion for him rather than anger or resentment.It might be different tomorrow but just for today I'm ok.

Thanks again.