Hi Star48. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Unfortunately in many addiction situations the partner is lost long before they actually leave the home. When they are chasing their addiction they may already be gone into another place where they are not there for their partner. Still that must be painful to bear.
You may find this article helpful.
Surviving Your Breakup
Hope you can find a support group or therapist that can help you process your grief and feelings.
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