I'd ask if you can go, and play it by ear. Just talk about whatever, and if you are comfortable, venture to that topic. If not, just stay away from the subject. If she doesn't agree to that (and who wouldn't??) then I'd pass. You can't force a subject like that. It just won't work.

But, it would be awfully nice to have someone who shared this coping tool, and really "got it" who would spend time alone, and drink coffee, and just talk. You decide ahead that if you drift too much, you guys talk about basketball.

Best, campy