I am ashamed raised two children (now adults) who are still so dependent on me. I see some of the ways I contributed to it. My husband and I am still trying to help them but they are not cooperative. Both my FOO and my husband's FOO tried to help at times but they have now backed off because our children were not able to take advantage of the help when it was offered. They say nothing is wrong with them. I fear that I did not see what was wrong with me or them until it was too late. My family is completely tragic because of this, I sometimes feel guilty about how much more I have had and still have compared to them. Of course, I worked to have what I do have. They do not have jobs and still are not on the right course. I will always try to help them but struggle with how much help is really helpful. They are my children so it causes deep pain and I have to take medications so I can stay logical about what has happened rather than becoming insane from the pain.