I usually don't pop in here but I think this was an interesting topic. Does balance matter that much? I used to have a lot of guy friends. For that reason. Plus I found their support less superficial.

Doesn't mean any guy can be my friend. And doesn't mean any female cannot.

Actually, I realize I have some secret rule here. The females are often on the autistic spectrum or ADHD/ADD or gay. The guys are a bit softer men, usually techie guys.

I think I just like nerds, of either gender.

I have hard time with extremes, like men that always go to the gym for their looks, or men that have an unnecessary aggressive attitude. And women who only speak indirectly and have superficial ideas about looks.

Maybe what I strive for IS balance???

(My own gender is like 35 % male 5 % female and the rest no gender, habitating a female body).