By engaging in a revenge, you give your abuser power. They want you to degrade yourself and stoop down to their level.

I don't think that I am one of the "bad people" or even a coward for saying that the abused should preserve their integrity.

That's different from saying, "forget about it."

Your feelings are perfectly validated.

But have you thought through the consequences of your potential actions?

Do you think it will help you move forward or do you think it will take you backwards in your healing process? If you do something you regret, it can take years to recover from the guilt and shame of your actions.

If this is an urge you can't seem to control, I recommend therapy.

You are not obligated to agree with me. But I will not apologize for caring about the abused enough to say these things. The choice is ultimately up to you, but I am entitled to my opinion just as you are to yours.