Honey, I can't help but think there has to be a middle way.
T said this is a power struggle... so there's his way (and I am still not clear what that is - if he needs something, or wants something from you) and there's your way (you need to know t hasn't abandoned you and is there for you emotionally) and.... what is the middle way? where can you both meet and go forward? We know he doesn't want you cutting or od-ing in the building (guess is that is a respect issue) and we know you did because you couldn't use words to convey what you needed (because it felt like t abandoned you from the start which is what brought on the si. But what is beneath all this? You wanted him to say he loves you - he can't because he (i'm guessing) doesn't want there to be any miscongrued words or thinking that will mar th relationship - yet the relationship has been marred. perhaps you can both go back to before that happened and redo that day? TAKE 2
=( kiya