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Originally Posted by Mully
I may be totally off base here, but I think your T is just being cautious. I totally get how you are worried, but maybe he’s concerned that if you play a song and he doesn’t react in the way you are wanting that it will cause more harm then good.
For me, I appreciate music. Sometimes a song “speaks” to me, but more often then not, it’s background noise. Maybe your T is the same way? In a general sense, he may have been totally fine with playing a song in session. But take a client- you- who he knows feels and thinks about things deeply, and a song is no longer just a song. If it’s important enough for you to bring to session, it’s meaningful. And maybe he just doesn’t want to mess it up?
Oh, and for what it’s worth- my 7 year old daughter can’t figure out how to blow her nose, either. Drives me crazy, as my 5 year old daughter has figured it out, but it’s just one of those quirks that we deal with as parents!
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Thanks, Mully. Yeah, he's said before that music doesn't really do anything for him. So I suspect that lots of people in his real life (maybe clients, too) have tried to get him into music. And maybe they were bothered by his reaction? He has come to understand how sensitive I can be to things he says and does. So if I play something and he's just like, "OK, so that was a song," will it bother me? I guess I was thinking about it, and it's like...even if he's not that into music, presumably he's at least passingly familiar with, say, the Beatles or the Stones. So if I was saying their music really spoke to me, he'd have some concept of what I meant. But here, the bands I'm into, I seriously doubt (unless by some chance his wife, brother, friend, etc. is into them) he'd know. So part of me just wants to be like "Here's what I'm listening to."
It does mean a lot if he's that concerned about messing something like this up. It probably shows he cares more than if he was just like, "Sure, whatever, play what you want." But I'm not even sure that it's about his reaction at all, but just the experience of playing something for him. I don't expect him to "get it." But maybe others have expected that and gotten annoyed or frustrated with him when he didn't?
And glad/sorry you have the same issue with your daughter! D seems to get angry at me when I try to explain, too. Somewhere I read to have a kid blow out a candle with their mouth, then ask them to do the same with their nose, but haven't tried that yet...