Hi LT and all other contributors to your thread
Music is important to me-I play guitar- my therapist also plays bass as an aging blues rocker- I’ve listened to his band on YouTube and find the music a bit loud and dissonant and I know that he’s not a fan of the manic street preachers and Leonard Cohen so I can’t imagine playing something and expecting him to listen and understand why it means something to me when he may be feeling like screaming and leaving the room- it seems I would be placing him between a rock and a hard place- if he was very enthusiastic I might think that we have a shared interest which shifts the relationship in my mind and if he wasn’t then rejection/he doesn’t really care etc .....
On a. Slightly comedic note-I terminated the relationship very painfully and went back to read my records last week taking iPod /headphones with me -uncharged of course! -and he came to check on me while the intro to” creep”was playing - I couldn’t help but say the “I’m a creep I’m a weirdo you’re so ...
special -to which he replied “ can you play that-the chords are really difficult “. ( they’re not) and then “I’m not a weirdo I’m eccentric” - there was connection through the music at that moment but it was not staged and it worked

So LT I understand where you are coming from ,genuinely,but I agree with another poster that you probably won’t get what you need from a one sided almost forced situation