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Originally Posted by Elio
I often want to just do something in session without talking about it. For me, for some reason the act of talking about it starts to bring out feelings that it's a bad thing to want to do it or I'm some how or some reason stupid for liking it ... thinking it's important to me. It's like the discussion, analyzing, intellectualizing the whatever, results in it feeling judged. I haven't gotten to why this is for me. I've only gotten to recognizing it is there.
... So... risk/reward.
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We are asserting ourselves in doing this. Maybe our ts are being a little hamhanded sometimes in how they handle it? You dont want to trample the little bud, delicate little flower that i am!
I dont think they get that for some of us, "why do you want to do that?" really means in parent-talk, "this is (i.e., YOU are) not important enough to attract my attention - go away NOW."