My husband had surgery Monday to remove the tumors in his bladder. I was alone in the waiting room all day. It was a day surgery as they went through his penis sending him home with a catheter and a bleeding penis. It has been draining taking care of him and still working. Making sure he constantly drinks, eats, takes his meds, keeping him comfortable. Then he gets constipated. I get him what the doctor suggested which helped but now he has a big hemorrhoid.

My identity right now is wrapped up in being his caretaker. We still do not know the stage of his cancer until the pathology report comes back.

Who takes care of me during this time? I have no friends here or family. My sister knows what is going on but choses not to at least check in on me. I have one friend who knows and I vented to her on Wednesday morning. She has not checked in on me and who can blame her? Who wants to talk to someone who is in emotional mess and full of grief?