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Originally Posted by Miguel'smom
Could you get him into a day program? frame it as somewhere to go and meet new people...
I was taught from a young age not to trust the mental health system. My parent's threatened therapy and hospitalization more times than I can remember.
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Thanks for your suggestions.
Yes, during the past year, when our son exhibitted some odd behaviors, we did asked the police if he could be Baker Acted (committed for observation). The police advised to let them arrest him for trespassing instead (we declined). They thought he had an attitude problem, not a mental problem. It is actually hard to have this done once someone turns 18 unless you can show they are dangerous to themselves or others. My POV is that our son is usually a gentle, compassionate person. Sadly, he might be suffering from PTSD (which might start other things/"flip switches --don't feel qualified to diagnose) from my husband's "tough love" approach and my mental issues drama. I think when I was the one that kicked him out that that was really heartbreaking for him. It is hard to feel so rejected and abandoned. Also being homeless has caused him a lot of trauma. {We have ruined his life (I shouldn't think like this because my son also played a big role though we did make mistakes but we did a lot of good things for him too).} I will take whatever medications I have to take to calm my anxiety enough to deal with the mess we caused. I won't give up on him. My husband/his dad is not giving up either but his approach is much different than mine. It is still a tough situation because we view it so differently.
I remember how when I went inpatient voluntarily (but would have been sent involutarily if I hadn't volunteered)---I was terrified my rights/free will would be taken away. Our son does mistrust us because of this. Thanks for your reply.
I have admitted my part in the tragedy but of course it is more complicated than that. We all played a role and learning to work together is a work in progress. It could get messy and I don't want to spill anymore details about it on here. Things change. It's a roller coaster. Some of the things said to each other and in therapy should be private. I do not know how it will turn out but don't want to be tempted to give a "blow by blow" of the drama as it occurs.
Tisha, thanks for your hug. I will always be grateful for all the encouragement you consistently gave me.