I'm so sorry you have to put up with him, rqn12! I completely agree with what ALL THE OTHER WISE, WONDERFUL POSTERS have already wisely said better than I ever could! You've been given plenty of great, kind, wise and WONDERFUL advice and suggestions! I'd suggest to follow it AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN if you want to! I completely agree with what all the other great, kind, wise and wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could about leaving him AS SOON AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN! It's clear that he's trying to emotionally blackmall you! Please don't allow that! You can't take full responsability for other people's lives, ESPECIALLY if they're hurting yourself in the process! You deserve MUCH BETTER THAN THAT! Please DO consider cutting off ALL CONTACTS with him! If you want him to get helps I'd suggest to just link him the resources that he can use to get the help he needs, such as a Pdoc or therapist's adresses! That's really ALL YOU CAN DO since HE'S the one who needs to get help, NOT YOU FOR HIM! I also completely agree with what sarahsweets has already wisely said better than I ever could about trying to talk to a therapist about ALL OF THIS and see how it goes from there! Hopefully they'll be able to help you! Please remember to take GREAT care of yourself, ok? Please keep up updated AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN if you want to! We DO want to know how things are going for you and if there's ANYTHING AT ALL that we can do to HELP YOU OUT! WE'LL ALWAYS BE HERE FOR YOU! WE'LL NEVER ABANDON YOU! I PROMISE YOU ALL OF THAT BECAUSE IT IS TRUE! PLEASE REMEMBER ALL OF THAT BECAUSE IT IS TRUE! Wish you good luck! Sending many hugs to you, rqn12!