I often have a difficult time accepting that my friends want to hear from me. Nowadays it seems like everyone (but me) is so busy, that a phone call would just be annoying to them. I typically wait for them to call me, but as you say, it doesn't happen often and usually for only suspicious reasons.

But the other day I got a call from a friend who I hadn't heard from in a few months, and we talked for a long time. I was feeling pretty low just before, and after I spoke to her, I felt really really good. I told her how much I appreciated her calling me, but I don't think she'll ever really understand the good it did me. The thing is, though, that it wasn't her calling me that made me feel better, it was talking to her, and I hope to remember that the next time I'm feeling like none of my friends gives two shakes.

I'm sorry I don't have any answers for you, but I hope that the rant helped.

Good luck!