I think it just takes time, @themagicman.

As far as forgiving goes, there are some things that simply aren't forgivable.

And, forgiveness doesn't necessarily suddenly make things okay ... If done too soon it could even make it worse.

I don't think it's necessary to forgive in order to move forward, however, I do believe we do have to come to some sort of terms (acceptance if you will) in order to do so.

For me, it's been like okay, this is what happened to me ... It effected me in this manner ... Then I work on fixing the things I can and the things I can't, I just keep trudging forward while hoping somewhere along the way the that how it impacts me will lessen over time.

Don't know if that answer is helpful or not, but I've been at this for 26 years now and still haven't got it all sorted out ... I have come to the conclusion, though, that there is no easy solution ... Sadly!

Sincerely,
Pfrog!