Hi Sisabel,


so sorry you experienced this! While it's great that you weren't aggressive or reactive in response, I wonder if you were too passive and that's why you started to internalize her unpleasantness? Perhaps even one calm conversation: "It probably feels like I'm ignoring you because I am not okay with how you speak to me sometimes. Your thoughts are your thoughts but if they are unpleasant, you need to keep them to yourself." Perhaps being able to directly defend your boundaries would make you feel a bit better? I'm not suggesting that she'd suddenly evolve into a more pleasant person (highly unlikely) but it might be good for your self-esteem. This would not be an effort to have a friendship with her but peacefully drawing a line on behavior that is not okay. And perhaps she'd at least give up "I'm hurt that you're ignoring me" comments?


I'm glad you have distance and don't see her often. Peace to you!