I think feeling able to express your needs/wants and your disappointment in not getting them met can be a valuable part of therapy. It's a safe place to do that.

I don't think this is about your not considering him as a free agent like Anne mentioned. I think it's feeling free and safe to express what you want. It's not like you're refusing to pay him if he doesn't agree to email or something. I think some of the more valuable things I've gotten from therapy have been being able to discuss feeling hurt or disappointed or even angry at my T (or ex-T or ex-MC). Because I struggle with doing that in real life. And I've gotten better at it in real life from sort of practicing in therapy. From knowing I can express those things toward my T and that he won't go anywhere. Also that he could potentially become frustrated with me, and he's said he might tell me that, but wouldn't make me leave, we'd work through it. Basically, stuff I didn't really get in childhood...