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Originally Posted by Forgetmenot07
This is something that has been on my mind for a while. My T mentioned a few times that I am very cognitive about my emotions and that I talk about them but he doesn't see me displaying any in therapy. This came up in relation to sadness . I tried explaining that I am not there to feel but to process and discuss what is going on in my life outside of the room, that I might be sad that day but I come to therapy not to simply feel sad. I don't see the benefit of sitting with emotions with someone that you are not close too. Its different with friend or family when its more natural and time is not limited.
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This is some textbook therapisty thing they like to bring up. But some people just naturally have a calm and composed demeanor, it does not mean that they don't feel emotions intensely inside. Others use more emotional expression. I personally don't see a preference for a rational expression a problem at all (and I have that preference myself) unless it is excessive and blocks the ability to experience, process and use emotions constructively in life. If you like to be more emotional with people close to you, it also does not sound like you are not able to connect and have meaningful relationships. If you don't have a problem experiencing and expressing emotions in everyday life, I would not worry that it's not what you want to use therapy for and tell the T just that. If you do have those kinds of issues, then maybe it's worth digging into it more and seeing what blocks it.