I'd like to share a pertinent anecdote from my doctor. He is a Chinese man. He is happily married and a successful practitioner. I have a great deal of respect for him as a person and doctor. The other day we were discussing my dysfunctional family and how that pain affects me sometimes. He shared that his parents are very upset that he and his wife are not currently planning to have a baby. They are not sure if they will ever have a baby but both agree that they certainly do not want one now. I mentioned that he is Chinese because he told me it is common for parents in his culture to overstep with their children. Anyway, first his mother tried to convince him to have a baby. Then she asked his father to pressure him. When that didn't work, his father asked his uncle to call him up and emphasize how much he really needed to have a baby as soon as possible. He simply told them no, no, and no. He lives in a different country from them. So that could certainly help with boundaries but they obviously kept pushing and he needed to stand his ground. The only person who should be weighing in on his baby plans, or the lack thereof, is his wife!