Hi all, after doing our first round of IVF, we are pregnant! I had intended to go off all meds which I had gotten down to a pretty low dose of Lamictal & Lexapro around the time I found out since it was planned.
However things have started degrading. I don’t know what to do and need some hard data since I am debating going back on a low dose of Lamictal. I’m almost in my 2nd trimester. I heard initially pregnancy was “protective” but it has been a roller coaster so far for me. First off I’m 38, high risk and my type of mood issue seems triggered by stress, fatigue, unmet expectations etc. pregnancy has amplified it. The first trimester I was taking Progesterone which I think helped me in some ways sleep but I stopped taking it which is the norm at week 10. I have had to leave my stressful job, am now working @ home and the struggle is not a lot of social interactions. I’m trying, I do yoga, walking, but it’s hard. I also had OHSS my ovaries were overstimulated from the meds, so that was very painful at times. I had a few arguments in recent weeks with my SO which we hadn’t had these kinds in awhile. One yesterday on our anniversary of all days 😒 I’m in therapy, I’m trying to remember my DBt skills, but I’m tired and I want to go back on meds but I’m so scared of side affects & hurting my baby. So my questions:

Is cleft pallet something that would happen only in 1st trimester? Am I out if the woods there? (I’m almost 11 weeks)

What about the rash? Bc I was on it once without it I’m scared to go back on and if I got that during pregnancy it seems really bad.

Is a low dose even going to help me?
Will baby suffer withdrawl?
Any other issues I need to consider?

Are there any other alternatives?

TIA