Soo my T can’t bill through my EAP, and didn’t offer anything, so I’ve canceled for the next 2 weeks. Our next mortgage payment will be paid after that, and then I’ll have to re-assess and see if I need to cancel more. I don’t fault him for not offering a reduced rate, I should have asked if I wanted it, but I was way too scared to. I don’t want to risk him hating me or saying no.
@WarmFuzzySocks and @Anne2.0
Thank you for your perspectives on this. I’m not exactly sure what to think. I feel like if something were seriously wrong with the way he treats me, wouldn’t my t bring it up? And sometimes we can go a week without any issues that I’m aware of. Also, he sometimes apologizes afterward. Or will start off yelling/saying all the rude things, and after an hour or so will then talk about it more calmly and start watching his words more. Idk. I had a previous boyfriend who was definitely emotionally abusive and I didn’t recognize til after we broke up, but I feel like he was SO much worse. Like breaking things to scare me, punching stuff when I said no to sex, etc. This just feels so tame in comparison.
@SalingerEsme I’ve never thought of a go fund me, not a bad idea. I feel guilty taking people’s money though haha. I brought up bankruptcy but I think that’s a last resort. Unfortunately all our credit cards are maxed right now [emoji53]
@H011yHawkJ311yBean, is what you’re describing a home equity loan? If so, that was actually our plan, and then we discovered that we need a better debt to income ratio in order to qualify. It’s a great idea though and something that we’ll probably pursue once we have higher income.