'I wonder if such an approach is actually allowed here, since my intuition is that it's probably not considered supportive on here. "

rainbows & butterflies...that what I consider when all the poster gets are responses for the post ..they asked a question and then they get balloons and puppies. nice but do they offer a solution? if I can offer a solution (in my eyes) as a response why should that not be acceptable? because it isn't perky?

you stated your post was intended to stir discussion, well I am discussing, as intended. I don't understand what "type" of response you are or are not searching for. if the initial post questioned the presence of "tough love" on the forums and I responded explaining my take on the issue the, again what are you searching for?