Hugs, Summer.
I wonder if it might be most helpful right now to focus on the way you deserve to be treated and spoken to, no matter what label can be put on it.
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I just think he has trouble expressing anger and frustration. He admits to this himself. I mean he’s never anything near violent. And the name-calling is only after I actually do mess up, and even then, stupid, dumb, and selfish is the worst it gets. That’s not to say I think it’s right that he does it, but it’s not like it’s out of nowhere or he doesn’t realize he could handle his anger better, if that makes sense?
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And I want to respond to this, the bolded especially. It makes total sense to me. I said things like that.
I'm not trying to define your experience for you based on mine, promise. What I do know is that no one deserves to be treated the way he's treating you, and excusing his behavior allows him to continue to treat you poorly, which ultimately is damaging to both of you.
Oh...the church thing. Often reaching out to a church body to ask for help even though you attend sporadically is welcomed, as they see it as an opportunity to minister to community members.
