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Old May 21, 2019, 01:13 AM
H011yHawkJ311yBean H011yHawkJ311yBean is offline
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Originally Posted by SummerTime12 View Post
...My husband keeps blaming me (I know he doesn’t mean to) for what feels like every little thing, making me hate myself even more. He doesn’t understand that when he calls me stupid, selfish, dumb, etc., just because he doesn’t mean it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t still hurt like hell...

Has your husband been to see a therapist? He may have a condition that makes it difficult to regulate his emotions (ADHD, for example)... Or he could also see a regular doctor to rule out something like low blood sugars or other physical issue. Or he could be an alcoholic/drug addict. If a person drinks or takes drugs and becomes emotionally abusive, that is still abuse. If this is what you mean by saying “he doesn’t mean to” abuse you, it doesn’t matter. It is still abuse. No excuses: The science behind what’s said while drunk

Hang in there, hon! *huggles*

Also, it’s perfectly reasonable to ask a therapist if s/he can take payments. I’ve asked before.