This may feel overwhelming so please take it in whatever pieces you can manage. I agree with everyone who posted above. I volunteer at a domestic violence nonprofit, and have learned that abuse happens in cycles (a tension-building phase, the abusive incident, and then a honeymoon phase). That's how abusers keep control. If you research and talk to people, please be careful and do it secretly. Use private mode on your browser and always close your windows. Delete call records. This may feel melodramatic, but periods of heightened danger are around when survivors are researching, planning, etc. Domestic violence isn't necessarily about physical violence, but about control and power.