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Old May 21, 2019, 01:58 PM
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This is weird to me. I've seen your blog. In no way would I think that, through your blog, you are offering life coaching. Your blog is sort of inspirational, self-help oriented, but not like you offer any services. It's a personal blog style, not a business blog.

I think, regardless of what she wanted, you set a boundary with her, and she reacted with a lot of insulting comments. That's when you say "I'm sorry you feel that way." and walk away. Remember we talked about practicing ignoring people? She doesn't like you now. Not everyone in the world will like you or will get mad at you because you don't do what they want. We (I say we because you and I are both working on this) have to practice ignoring them.

I know that's a simplistic answer, but reassure yourself that you are happy with the quality of the content you are producing, and that is all that matters. All that matters in this instance is your opinion of your blog. Keep reminding yourself that she can have her opinion, and it doesn't have to matter to you. You don't need validation from her to feel good about what you do.

I get it; it's hard to deal with these things because we don't have the coping skills. Remember this is an opportunity to practice not caring about her. Block her from your social media and keep putting her out of your mind. You can do it. Don't waste your energy on her.

You set your boundary. She's going to be unhappy. Let her be unhappy. It's not your job to make her happy. It's your job to take care of you.

Hope this helps.

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