I’m not offended. There is something about the details I give and the opinions I have that I seem to get criticized for.

IMHO, I wasn’t too much of a hover parent. I do listen to my kids. Yes, I called him sneaky— he was sneaky! He could have deposited those checks into his account where I fed him money as needed. Had he told us about the job and the income, we would not have fed the account more money— hence he was sneaky. We only found out about it because the 1099 came to the house from his earnings. That’s when he confessed he had the job.

At least I didn’t bribe someone at the university to get him in like Lori Lachlan, lol. This kid got in on his own merit and he worked hard to get there. But then he didn’’t do the extra things the grad school wanted to see (not me), and he is doing all the things that made life easier for his fiancé, including taking on her student loans.

I am staying out of it and letting him sink or swim on his own.

I’ll just keep on as I have been doing, sending him a weekly text to say hello.

He seems happy with his relationship. I wish them all the best. What do I know, anyway? I’ve had a pretty unhappy marriage that hangs on by a thread.