
May 21, 2019, 05:47 PM
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Originally Posted by golden_eve
Thanks, Divine, Sisabel, Blanche and Seesaw! I don't want to ignore anyone else who has also replied, but those are the names I can see right now in the feed.
Yes, it is simply a self-help type of blog. There's been zero confusion thus far and plenty have been exposed to my blog at this stage. It's pretty clear from the front home page that I do not offer any kind of services. It's simply online advice.. and a blog, not a professional website.
Blanche, I'm glad I cleared that up for you. And thank you. I know you were just trying to help! I put it together that you must have thought we met through my blog, which wasn't the case. In that case, I totally understand your points and it would perhaps make sense to add a disclaimer. But since this is the one and only time, I don't see the need.
Seesaw, yes, you were just saying this to me. Something that is SOOOO very hard for me to put into practice! I take attacks to heart and very personally and honestly? When she insulted my work, it was like someone popping my whole bunch of balloons I was holding in my hand.
It's been my pride and joy... imagine working very hard at a piece of work for over two years, to then have someone try to denigrate it to practically nothing? It was infuriating for me.
And I knew that it came from a very bad place, of her being most dissatisfied with her own life and her lack of achievements.
I don't cope very well with strong emotions. They can pull me under sometimes and I get, well, overwhelmed by them. So I was overwhelmed by anger and rage at her for even trying to punch holes into my good feelings about myself AND my work.
Which is exactly what the most unhappy people try to do!!!!!!! They hate seeing other people successful and/or happy, so what do they need to do? Try to tear them down. That's an extremely toxic person for you.
Maybe I will write a blog article on this topic! LOL!!!! Maybe this is the inspiration I needed in order to write a new article! HA! I've been blocked lately and haven't written in three months. Well, now is a good time, lol.
Thank you ALL so very much again. It really helped to hear your feedback and support around this. I am constantly amazed and astonished at how awful people can truly be toward one another.
And yes, Sisabel, it was completely selfish and self-serving of her. It says a LOT about what kind of person she is, at heart. Only looking at what others can give her, not what she can give to others in return. A user.
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An article on accepting validation from yourself because looking for it from strangers won't bring you happiness? Yes.
I know, you gotta let it out. I'm the same way. I keep reminding myself: I waste too much energy on other people's stuff. Don't want to waste my time and energy processing their crap for them. I like what I do and what I've done, and it works for me.
As an artist I deal with this all the time. Some people don't like my work. That's fine. I do like my work, so that's what matters. I don't make my art to please them, I make it to please me. (Unless they're paying and then yeah...they do have some opinion, I suppose.)
This is YOUR blog about YOUR experience. Also, one way to wave off these people that sort of grates them is to say "Thanks for the feedback. Keep reading and enjoy!" I know it seems counter-intuitive, but they hate that you can accept feedback and that you suggest they keep reading, lol.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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