I sometimes wonder what’s normal.

I talk to my daughter a lot and it’s equal back and forth (I’d say we have at least few texts every day and phone phone calls every few days and we are very busy people and have time zone difference )and I always thought that’s what others do too.

My daughter told me that’s actually unusual amount of communication. I was surprised. Actually my therapist said that many parents and adult kids talk only occasionally. I complained how far away she lives and my therapist says “well at least you two talk”, I asked what she meant and she said that others just don’t talk that much.

Now I think maybe what we do it in some kind of old country backwards ways talking that much? My husband talks to my stepdaughter but not extremely often, maybe weekly but she often doesn’t reply to texts. If my daughter didn’t reply to a text I’d think something bad happened. I’d freak out. He doesn’t freak out “oh she’ll reply when she has time”. He doesn’t fuss like I do.

My brother complains that my nephew doesn’t call them (married lives near by), but then my brother doesn’t call him either! My dad wouldn’t call or text us unless we do, he believes it’s our job. I don’t look at it this way. If I want to talk to my daughter, I call.

I know you said you text your son. Have you tried to call? Does he pick up?