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sophiebunny
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Default May 21, 2019 at 07:01 PM
 
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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins View Post
Perhaps your therapist is simply expressing the fact that no amount of talking about this particular situation is going to change the situation itself.

When my sister was dying, it was validating that my therapist acknowledged my own hopelessness and helplessness in the situation. He knew nothing he said, nothing we talked about, was going to ultimately change the outcome. I appreciated that honesty about a rather overwhelming and incredibly sad situation in my life. I preferred that acknowledgment above and beyond a therapist that would in any way claim to somehow be able to help me feel better about that situation.

I don't see it as expressing self-doubt at all. I see it as expressing and validating the tragedy and hopelessness of the situation rather than trying to "fix" it.

I agree with you completely. There have been times when my therapist gently let me know that there was no real fix for what I was sharing. That makes her honest, not lacking in self confidence or compassion. Sometimes we just have to deal with what is and grieve.
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Thanks for this!
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