My new friend recently asked me a specific private question about my family.

She was treating me to lunch so I felt obligated to answer and now I regret it.

Since I am working on assertiveness, I would have said "I don't feel comfortable discussing it" had it been under different circumstances.

But I felt rude for getting treated and declining her request for an answer (I'm never taking up her offer for something nice like this again, even if she insists).

Can anyone else relate? Have you ever felt obligated to do something uncomfortable for someone when that person displays generosity towards you?