absolutely all kids criticize their parents or think their parents are off in one way or the other. It comes with the territory. We were placed on this planet to give our kids something to roll their eyes about. Lol I criticize my parents and my kid criticize me and her kids will think she is crazy. It is just how it is

I am sorry to hear about his aloofness. It could be he takes after his father. I can’t say about distancing themselves from over emotional outbursts but it could play a role. I understand distancing at that time like at the time of outburst, but then maybe reconnecting

Could be he had an issue with you being angry or very upset over a ring. I personally have never heard of adults having to call their parents about a ring. In my books it’s strictly between a man and a woman. Zero to do with mom. Most kids would respond with ignoring requests to consult with mom. I don’t think it’s unique to your son. Possible drama over not consulting with you re ring did cause a rift.

But it could be repaired. I routinely say or ask that my daughter does something I don’t think is wise. She doesn’t particularly care that I think it’s unwyse. She does what she wants.

But I think it could be repaired. I wouldn’t blame his fiancée because you don’t know. Sure they possibly talk about you. I talk to my husband about my dad and his crazy demands. But I make my own decisions re relationship with my dad. Is your son very dependent on others? You? Now her? Was he raised a bit overly protected? A lot was given to him? He now finally makes his own decisions? Which might include distance from you?

If he isn’t making steps towards repairing the rift, could you? Like heart to heart? Not emotional but just tell him how you feel? Ask if there is something could be done to change it?