I would encourage you to re-read your interpretations of your therapist's silence and consider three questions: 1) how can I possibly know what was inside her head, her feelings or thoughts or intentions?; 2) if I can accept that I can't possibly know what's inside her head from her silence, how can she possibly know what's going on with me?; and 3) what is the most benign way to understand why a therapist might be silent in response to a client's silence? (one possible benign answer: because she's trying to give you space and time to bring to the surface what you need to).